Dear Erin,
Erin writes: My husband gets upset when I take a sip of his drink while we are watching TV. He says that he sees backwash going into his cup. I argue that we swap saliva all the time when we’re kissing, and I don’t want to get up from the couch just to get myself a drink. Who’s right?
It’s true that our reactions to certain behaviors can be a bit irrational, perhaps even somewhat hypocritical. However, your husband has every right to set boundaries regarding how much (and whose) saliva he’s willing to tolerate in his drink. While your argument about kissing is quite compelling, it’s worth noting that kissing is, in its own way, also a bit gross. Don’t misunderstand me: there’s something beautiful and intimate about connecting with your partner in such a personal manner. It’s an exhilarating mix of trust, vulnerability, and a dash of rebellion against social norms.
Yet, if you take a moment to reflect, you might find that thinking too deeply about it could lead to a rather unpleasant realization — one that might even ruin the romantic mood. Kissing is certainly not about quenching your thirst, just as spitting in someone’s drink is not a sign of affection. Therefore, I would recommend that you respect your husband’s preferences and pour yourself a separate glass. This way, you can both enjoy your beverages without any mixed feelings.
